显微镜下

無意間發現最新的第六季第一及第二集的Grey's Anatomy，興奮。那可是我最最最愛的美劇！這兩集談的是關於George O'Malley驟然逝世之後，劇裡的每個人對悲傷（grief）的詮釋與應對。

看完之後還沉醉在劇情中，還在為Meredith說的那句「The very worst part is that the minute you think you’re past it, it starts all over again」（譯：最糟的是，當你以為悲傷已成為過去時，它又捲土重來）悸動不已。隨手打了幾個關鍵字，竟然讓我發現這兩集的精句。想說用筆抄下，寫了幾個字之後發現寫得很生硬，太久沒有用筆寫字了，手廢掉了。還是直接貼在這裡比較方便。
 

The dictionary defines grief as keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss; sharp sorrow; painful regret. As surgeons, as scientists, we’re taught to learn from and rely on books, on definitions, on definitives. But in life, strict definitions rarely apply. In life, grief can look like a lot of things that bear little resemblance to sharp sorrow.

According to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, when we're dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss, we all move through five distinct stages of grief. We go into denial because the loss is so unthinkable we can’t imagine it’s true. We become angry with everyone, angry with survivors, angry with ourselves. Then we bargain. We beg. We plead. We offer everything we have, we offer our souls in exchange for just one more day. When the bargaining has failed and the anger is too hard to maintain, we fall into depression, despair, until finally we have to accept that we’ve done everything we can. We let go. We let go and move into acceptance.

Lexie: Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone.

Mark: It isn’t just death we have to grieve. It’s life. It’s loss. It’s change.

Alex: And when we wonder why it has to suck so much sometimes, has to hurt so bad. The thing we gotta try to remember is that it can turn on a dime.

Izzie: That’s how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can’t breathe, that’s how you survive.

Derek: By remembering that one day, somehow, impossibly, you won’t feel this way. It won’t hurt this much.

Bailey: Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way.

Owen: So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is try for honesty.

Meredith: The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can’t control it.

Arizona: The best we can do is try to let ourselves feel it when it comes.

Callie: And let it go when we can.

Cristina: And always, every time, it takes your breath away.