Nowadays, there is no doubt for mature-aged divorce is become a social problem. It is a material change for the female’s position .This problem is due to husbands and wives can’t to mutual understanding themselves.
The husbands and wives have different reason to causes them to divorce. Although they have different views and expectations of life to lead them to divorce, they all have in common that they bear a heavy burden and despair for the other side.
Even mature-aged divorce will make injure one of them, the another side must be suffering by the pain of lonely.
The husbands and wives have different background of their environment to causes them to divorce. From my point of view, when the husbands are decided to get married, they need the money to solve problems. For example, the need to meet mortgage, provide the maintenance, can not have the tax concessions, find a place to residence and more likely to raising a son. Then husbands need to more hardworking to gain money to sake of their love. They even get the health problem with this mentality. Then look at wives’ background, when they get married before, they are full of hope for the married life. However, they need to face on many unexpected problem, such as children’s education problem and “wives and mothers in law relationship”. They are disappointment of the environment is suffering to them, but they can get the power by family. However, there husband need to hard work that they are no time to accompany there love. Then wives need to face on there sexless life and make them to feel lonely and lonely. And they need to attend their husband who is the unemployed or gambler every day. Then wives or husbands hope to locate their dreams again. They may divorce and remarry until they find a real partner.
Divorce is not a good thing that not only affects feelings. It will affect the life and the children growing up. Couple’s life will blocked after they have divorce. They are inter-dependency since they had married. After they had divorce, someone may lose the source or no one to take care of their family. Then they need to fight for property, fund ownership and custody of children. It may need to pay a large number of expenditure. When the children are growing up in the fragmented family, they may not meet with the parental care. Then they can’t have enough education from their parents. After the children grow up, they may not to integration in society. They will have the self-compassion that they can’t have a family as same as their schoolmates. It may affect their education at school.
There many reason to cause couples to divorce, such as children’s education problem, family economic issues and the “sexless life”. Then many times of expectation and disappointment will make them to embark on the road of divorce. They have also work to efforts for their family, can not they can not love for all seasons at finally. Unemployed and crash is out of their control. But, gambling and faithless is unforgivable between husband and wife. Lastly I think that only if partner really is a scum, don’t divorce, which is hurting about the couple and their children. The Japanese government needs to take action to reduce this phenomenon. For example, they can increase the number of social workers to mediation the disputes and provide the activities to the retired people to join in their free time.
